"Are You Hung Up, On Being Hung Up On?"

By Michael Oliver

Many distributors I talk with who call leads have different thoughts and feelings when someone immediately hangs up on them.
For those who are starting this can be gut wrenching or unnerving making you fearful of picking up the phone again.
If this happens to you and you’re feeling down, the question you might ask yourself is, who are you allowing to be in charge of your feelings, you or the other person? The answer is self-evident.
If you need the actions or words of others to determine how you feel, such as needing compliments, or needing people not to say or do “nasty” things for you to feel good, then you're allowing others to control your feelings.
Some distributors like to let off steam when they’ve been hung up on… using an expression like – “Jerk!” Why even do that? Does it change anything? They might reply that it makes them feel MLM Lead King. But does it really? Or does it demonstrate they’re allowing the feelings of others to affect them and becoming a victim to them?
Do you want that to happen? If not, let’s Re-Think this!
Here’s some thoughts!
First, keep in mind the "Purpose" of your MLM Lead King – which is to help people solve their problems - the first principle in Natural Selling I talk about in chapter 3 of my book "How to Sell Network Marketing Without Fear, Anxiety or Losing Your Friends!".
If for some reason the other person is not open to being helped, then there isn't much you can do except quietly wish them well and move on to other opportunities. You don't have to become a victim to their decision – unless you're still addicted to getting the sale!
Also, what if they didn’t hang up on purpose? What if they just accidentally dropped the phone in the cradle? You might say, “Well that’s not likely to happen with every single hang up!” Then again, how do you know? You don’t, unless your need to be right and to judge another person overrides your ability to be compassionate and kind to all things.
So give the “hang ups” the benefit of the doubt. Call them back and say “Hi, it’s me again, it appears we got disconnected!”
If they hang up on you again, instead of being fed up with it, consider this…
What if they’re in a negative place in their life, and instead of piling more negativity on them how about helping them (and yourself) by creating and projecting a different feeling? One of love perhaps, by thinking to yourself “Gee! That person appears to be angry and having a hard time. I hope they're OK. I wish them well.”
Now, doesn’t that feel MLM Lead King already? I’m sure all those people to whom you direct your thoughts will as well!
Have a peaceful and prosperous week…

Michael Oliver

"Reprinted with permission from Michael Oliver, Natural Selling® Sales Training http://www.naturalselling.com

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